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The 4 Attachment Types & How They Impact Your Relationships

Have you ever felt like you’re repeating the same relationship over and over again? At first, of course, you don’t think that the new person you’re excited about is like that crappy last person you dated. Nevertheless, a few weeks or months into the relationship, you’re having the same fights, complaints, and stressors as you had in your previous relationship....[ read more ]

How To Get Comfortable With Difficult Emotions

The ability to handle feelings  – our own and those of others – impacts everything we do. This kind of “emotional intelligence” predicts our personal and professional success. How “smart” we are in dealing with emotions sets the stage for how well we cope with and enjoy life. But feelings are subjective. What makes one person feel overwhelmed makes another...[ read more ]

How to Stay Centered When You’re Struggling

When you’re not in a good place, it’s hard to stay centered. “Staying centered” is an internal experience of feeling calm and confident within yourself. It’s a feeling of deep trust in one’s abilities or intuition. Maybe there has been a recent loss or disappointment that’s been hard to shake. Even though you have a support system, you might worry...[ read more ]

What Are Healthy Boundaries?

Boundaries create an appropriate distance distance between yourself and others. They help you decide which behaviors are acceptable. In relationships they provide a powerful way to advocate for yourself because knowing how to set boundaries makes you feel more confident in certain situations. Although boundaries are critical for healthy relationships, it can be challenging to understand how they work. Maybe...[ read more ]

How To Stop Defensiveness From Ruining A Conversation

According to the Gottman Institute for Couples Therapy, defensiveness is one of the main predictors of divorce. It’s a common but destructive habit that can be the start of communication problems. In this blog you’ll learn how to lessen defensive reactions to keep your communication healthy. Because defensiveness triggers a physiological response of stress, it makes communication difficult. People reacting defensively...[ read more ]

What is Codependency?

Because there is so much information published on codependency, it can be hard to make sense of it all. Part of the confusion is that no two people struggling with codependency are exactly alike. Some will identify with every symptom the list, while others relate to only a few. That being said, people struggling with codependency give too much in...[ read more ]

Are You Setting a Boundary Or Giving An Ultimatum?

Boundaries build a foundation of trust and respect that is critical for healthy relationships. Whether it’s with family, friends, people at work or romantic partners, boundaries identify where your limits are and what action - if any - you need to take. Setting boundaries helps you take care of yourself no matter what’s happening around you. Common Misconceptions First, healthy...[ read more ]

How to Create Closure When Something Ends

With any kind of loss or significant change, you need to give yourself permission to embrace the grief and find closure. The message we get is that it’s okay to hurt - but not for long. Most people assume you’re fine after a month or so, but you might need more time. Maybe it’s a relationship that ended, someone died,...[ read more ]

4 Tips to Enjoy Family This Holiday

Holidays can feel more like an obligation than a joy. Having to deal with family and old hurts that get triggered make it tough to celebrate. Maybe you love the festivities but you dread having to see a certain family member. That one person who gets under your skin can ruin the fun if you let it. Here are some...[ read more ]

Are You a “Difficult” Person?

Have you had trouble in your relationships with friends, partners, co-workers, or family members? Does it seem to you that nobody understands you? Do you find yourself getting angry and aggressive? Do you think everyone else has a problem, not you? Have you tried therapy before but felt like the therapist was an idiot who didn’t know how to help...[ read more ]



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