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How to Create Closure When Something Ends

With any kind of loss or significant change, you need to give yourself permission to embrace the grief and find closure. The message we get is that it’s okay to hurt - but not for long. Most people assume you’re fine after a month or so, but you might need more time. Maybe it’s a relationship that ended, someone died,...[ read more ]

4 Tips to Enjoy Family This Holiday

Holidays can feel more like an obligation than a joy. Having to deal with family and old hurts that get triggered make it tough to celebrate. Maybe you love the festivities but you dread having to see a certain family member. That one person who gets under your skin can ruin the fun if you let it. Here are some...[ read more ]

Are You a “Difficult” Person?

Have you had trouble in your relationships with friends, partners, co-workers, or family members? Does it seem to you that nobody understands you? Do you find yourself getting angry and aggressive? Do you think everyone else has a problem, not you? Have you tried therapy before but felt like the therapist was an idiot who didn’t know how to help...[ read more ]

7 Tips For Having Connecting Conversations

Having a connecting conversation isn't easy. A petty argument can start in a matter of minutes. Things like being too hungry or tired, not recognizing stress or just having a bad day can contribute. According to the Gottman Institute you can predict the health of a conversation in the first three minutes. The most important part of a conversation is...[ read more ]

What I Learned When Conflict Got Ugly

What I Learned When Conflict Got Ugly Have you ever been in a conversation that got way off track and didn’t know how to fix it? Several months back, I found myself reacting to a friend’s feedback. My head was swimming in fear and hurt. As much as I tried to stay focused, my hurt was getting in the way...[ read more ]

3 Simple Ways to Set Boundaries During The Holidays

The busyness of the holidays can make self-care a low priority. Between family obligations and social events setting boundaries may seem impossible. Dividing your time between all the festivities when you'd rather stay home just adds to the stress of the season. The holidays are a time to make memories but when you don't honor your own boundaries, they feel...[ read more ]

How To Fix It When “I’m Sorry” Doesn’t Work

"I’m sorry" doesn’t always work. In fact, sometimes, it make matters worse. When you’ve made a mistake, you might not know what to say - or whether you should say anything at all. This blog shows why "I’m sorry" doesn't work and how to repair things the right way. But first let’s go back a bit. There is a lot...[ read more ]

Trusting Yourself

If it looks right but feels wrong, it's FEAR. If it looks wrong but feels right, it's INTUITION. A hard truth is that you cannot trust others until you learn to trust yourself. But trusting others is what most of us worry about. You worry that your partner will lie or a friend will gossip behind your back. Trusting others...[ read more ]

Learning To Say No

Can you say no without feeling guilty? Often people say yes because it feels great - at first. You're the hero helping someone is in need. People love that generosity. That type of giving is a special quality that becomes ingrained in how you see yourself. There is a healthy pride associated with being helpful. It only becomes a problem...[ read more ]

10 Unmistakable Signs of a Narcissist

If you think that one of your friends or family members might be a narcissist then there are clear and distinct behaviors to watch out for. Here are ten unmistakable signs of a narcissist: 1. Having To Be the Best For narcissists, life is a competition and they want to be the winners every time. Narcissists strive to be the...[ read more ]



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