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7 Tips For Having Connecting Conversations

Having a connecting conversation isn't easy. A petty argument can start in a matter of minutes. Things like being too hungry or tired, not recognizing stress or just having a bad day can contribute. According to the Gottman Institute you can predict the health of a conversation in the first three minutes. The most important part of a conversation is...[ read more ]

What I Learned When Conflict Got Ugly

What I Learned When Conflict Got Ugly Have you ever been in a conversation that got way off track and didn’t know how to fix it? Several months back, I found myself reacting to a friend’s feedback. My head was swimming in fear and hurt. As much as I tried to stay focused, my hurt was getting in the way...[ read more ]

3 Simple Ways to Set Boundaries During The Holidays

The busyness of the holidays can make self-care a low priority. Between family obligations and social events setting boundaries may seem impossible. Dividing your time between all the festivities when you'd rather stay home just adds to the stress of the season. The holidays are a time to make memories but when you don't honor your own boundaries, they feel...[ read more ]

How To Fix It When “I’m Sorry” Doesn’t Work

"I’m sorry" doesn’t always work. In fact, sometimes, it make matters worse. When you’ve made a mistake, you might not know what to say - or whether you should say anything at all. This blog shows why "I’m sorry" doesn't work and how to repair things the right way. But first let’s go back a bit. There is a lot...[ read more ]

Trusting Yourself

If it looks right but feels wrong, it's FEAR. If it looks wrong but feels right, it's INTUITION. A hard truth is that you cannot trust others until you learn to trust yourself. But trusting others is what most of us worry about. You worry that your partner will lie or a friend will gossip behind your back. Trusting others...[ read more ]

Learning To Say No

Can you say no without feeling guilty? Often people say yes because it feels great - at first. You're the hero helping someone is in need. People love that generosity. That type of giving is a special quality that becomes ingrained in how you see yourself. There is a healthy pride associated with being helpful. It only becomes a problem...[ read more ]

10 Unmistakable Signs of a Narcissist

If you think that one of your friends or family members might be a narcissist then there are clear and distinct behaviors to watch out for. Here are ten unmistakable signs of a narcissist: 1. Having To Be the Best For narcissists, life is a competition and they want to be the winners every time. Narcissists strive to be the...[ read more ]

Tips For Coping With An Unhappy Marriage

You’re unhappy in your marriage but you’ve decided to stay. The stress is starting to get add up. You don’t want to leave your kids, but you’re tired of feeling ignored for all that do you. Waiting for the kids to go to college seems like an eternity. You don’t have to wait to create a more peaceful home. It...[ read more ]

5 Simple Steps To Master Letting Go

No one lets go voluntarily, but sometimes when the pain of holding on gets too intense, you have to. After months, sometimes years, of heartache, you're tired of trying to force a different outcome. Feelings of hopelessness make you want to give up. It's just too painful. There is nothing harder than letting go of someone that you love, but this type of...[ read more ]

How Detachment Keeps You Sane In A Chaotic Situation

Detachment means that you stop taking responsibility for things that are outside of your control. Maybe you're dealing with a family member who makes bad choices or an alcoholic partner. By stepping into someone else's drama we unknowingly create more stress. In this blog, you’ll learn how to avoid getting lost in a loved one’s chaos.   Detachment means that you...[ read more ]



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