Relationships

Friendships

Asking for help isn’t your strong suit. You want more support, but worry about reaching out and being a burden to others. You think everyone has their own problems to deal with and they probably don’t have time to listen to yours. You’d like to make new friends and maybe get rid of the ones that don’t fit your life anymore, but how do you do that without hurting their feelings? You feel like your relationships are one sided. You’re there for everyone else and yet where are they when you need them?

I help overwhelmed people pleasers take control of their lives. When you feel taken advantage of and unable to get rid of relationships that no longer serve you, resentment starts to build. You’ve got to clear out the old to make way for the new. Being able to ask for what you need and for what’s important to you are important skills. We’re not always taught how to communicate effectively with others. I can help you learn to be assertive so you can get what you need without all the resentment.

The Dating Game

You’re looking for love and all you want is a nice person to have a normal, happy relationship with. Instead, you find yourself fending off people who are nothing like their online dating profile. They seem to want nothing more than a casual hookup and aren’t interested in something real. You’re left asking when did texting become a substitute for real conversation? You’re sick of the bar scene and worry that maybe all the good ones are taken. You’re over the drama and the games.

I can show you how to choose more wisely by gently pointing out some of the mistakes you’re making in looking for a new low interest. I’ll show you how to spot red flags and give you the confidence to not ignore them and hope it gets better. I’ll help you clarify what’s important to you in a relationship so that you’re better able to spot the good ones and get rid of the bad ones a lot quicker.

Love On the Rocks

Do you wonder what happened to the person you fell in love with? You used to want to spend every minute together and now find yourself feeling unappreciated and taken for granted. You seem to be fighting more and more and over the stupidest things. Something small turns into a two hour fight and nothing ever gets resolved. Your parenting styles are different and you’re sick of playing the good cop-bad cop game. You fight about money and budgeting. Your sex life is unfulfilling or went out the window altogether. You used to go on date nights, but don’t know the last time that happened and when it did, all you talked about was the kids.

When you feel like nothing you ever do is good enough, I can help. I’ll help you get to the bottom of why it’s so hard to communicate with each other. When I show you what the underlying patterns are that cause most of your fights, you’ll learn how to have productive and meaningful conversations with each other. You’re never going to agree on everything and that’s okay, but I’ll help you talk again so that you both feel heard and understood. I’ll show you how to feel connected instead of criticized.



579 North Greenbush Road
Rensselaer, NY 12144

sarah@sarahmcclanelmhc.com
(518) 506-0346

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